tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5413615485793018819.post13797606488713694..comments2024-03-05T07:49:36.609+01:00Comments on housetohaus: Kitchen Soup (and roast chicken) for the Expat SoulTalleyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02526439207082547500noreply@blogger.comBlogger24125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5413615485793018819.post-60861596772031798932012-11-07T19:45:59.833+01:002012-11-07T19:45:59.833+01:00Felicity - wow! In a few sentences you managed to ...Felicity - wow! In a few sentences you managed to capture pretty much all of my thoughts and fears and feelings. I'm so glad you did comment, thank you. It really helps to know that other people are struggling with the same thing - that fear of falling of the rails you've laid out for yourself. But you are right, moments of crisis lead us to moments of clarity. <br /><br />I just popped over to your site for a second, but now I'm heading back to explore. I can't wait to read your posts. Talleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02526439207082547500noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5413615485793018819.post-73961798511452487422012-11-05T20:53:09.413+01:002012-11-05T20:53:09.413+01:00Talley Talley, oh how I share your sentiments on a...Talley Talley, oh how I share your sentiments on a daily basis. What am I doing with my life? I ask myself all the time, and then I feel sad because like you, I am happy, so so so very happy, and so I feel guilty about not just enjoying life and my beautiful (devilish) children. I know I will find out what it is that I want to do, but sometimes it feels so hard — I can't imagine trying to figure it out in a foreign country — and my excuse at the moment is children, but I know I shouldn't let them get in the way. If anything they've given me a gift, time at home to discover what I really want to do. Side note, have you read Bones, blood and Butter? If you haven't, I think you would love it. It's inspiring. The book is not about starting a restaurant, but reading it makes me really want to get back into the restaurant world and perhaps open a small café or a bed and breakfast or a hunting lodge with Ben, who would lead the hunts, leaving me at home to prepare post-hunt meals. It will all work out. I think we put a lot of pressure on ourselves that just shouldn't be there. Thanks for this post and for the lovely photos and recipes of course. alihttp://www.alexandracooks.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5413615485793018819.post-64219425871913133772012-11-02T22:56:35.607+01:002012-11-02T22:56:35.607+01:00Talley -- I rarely, if ever, leave comments on blo...Talley -- I rarely, if ever, leave comments on blogs, but your post and its honestly, the way you lay your heart out to bear, the way you heartbreakingly talk about a career potentially put out to pasture, moved me beyond measure. I'm an ocean away, in New York, and I'm considering a dramatic move to Europe because this carefully-crafted world that I've planned for myself isn't what I want now. I want something other. There's something terrifying about these strange turns that veer you off the road, that take you far, far away from where you've come, but what I'm trying to remind myself is this -- chrysalis is a GOOD THING. Complacency is a BAD THING. Running from the darkness instead of through it to find light, what's on the other side, is what will take us where we all need to go.<br /><br />Warmly, FeliciaFeliciahttp://www.lovelifeeat.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5413615485793018819.post-41429744577794789062012-11-01T13:06:53.714+01:002012-11-01T13:06:53.714+01:00Amy - thank you! I so remember those days approach...Amy - thank you! I so remember those days approaching and after graduation when I really had to say, "okay talley, now is the time, what are you going to do." Instead of really knowing exactly what I wanted to do, I just chose something - architecture. I wasn't 100% sure, but it felt like a decent fit at the time and so I went with it. I guess looking back I figured it's better to do something and try it than to not do it. I often think of my friend Crem's husband Jeremy, who really set out on a path of exploration after college. Unable to pin exactly one thing down he tried it all - organic farmer at a few different farms, sauerkraut & pickle maker, Hostel employee in the Headlands, bus boy/waiter at Chez Panisse, MFA student, writer, and back to organic farming as the farm manager at the Yale Sustainable Farm with a writing on the side when he's not harvesting and teaching. I admire his path for it's varied routes and pursuits. He's found his way and he has the benefit of so many different experiences. Had he put expectations on himself right away he might not have found what he was looking for, but he allowed himself to jump and explore and to see what the right fit was. Anyway I guess what I'm trying to say is that you're right, that our path is never truly clear, that we can never really know. There is always something to be said for trying it out and if you don't like it you can leave - we are not chained to anything or any decision, there is always room to leave and regroup and reinvent. <br /><br />and thank you for alerting me to the new rachel eat's post (sometimes they get lost in my bloglovin feed) and glad to see that rachel and I are on the same page - love her blog, recipes and stories! Talleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02526439207082547500noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5413615485793018819.post-6849384936090704402012-11-01T12:54:48.760+01:002012-11-01T12:54:48.760+01:00...no it definitely doesn't...but you're r......no it definitely doesn't...but you're right, I guess that is the fun of it all! And you are so good at seeing the positive side of this journey, thank you for that! It's hard to step outside myself, but when I do there is A LOT to be thankful for. <br /><br />and thank you also for being supportive of a possible non-architecture tangent of my life. There are indeed other possibilities, but I often have a hard time seeing beyond the expectations and guilt to know that they are out there. A career does not make a life, living makes a life! <br /><br />you're the best, thank you! Talleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02526439207082547500noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5413615485793018819.post-69914213565501381382012-11-01T12:51:34.665+01:002012-11-01T12:51:34.665+01:00Seriously? Turn down a piece of cake 3 times?! Oh ...Seriously? Turn down a piece of cake 3 times?! Oh man that is restraint. What if you just decided the hell with it after the 2nd time and ate all the cake yourself? Do you have to offer a Guiness 3x as well? I imagine 'mother's milk' is accepted on the first offer. <br /><br />and you're right, I shouldn't be so hard on myself. I need to reinvent the expectations I place on myself. Thank you! Talleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02526439207082547500noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5413615485793018819.post-63547578152136107402012-11-01T12:49:15.123+01:002012-11-01T12:49:15.123+01:00Katie - thank you! I can always count on your for ...Katie - thank you! I can always count on your for a really heartfelt comment - a comment that makes it clear you've understood everything while at the same time lifting me up and propelling me forward. I hope one day we can bake cookies together and chat about life (or philosophize in your case). <br /><br />interesting to know that you just picked up the fork in the left all on your own - maybe in a past life you lived in Paris?Talleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02526439207082547500noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5413615485793018819.post-35106905742362877892012-11-01T12:45:58.730+01:002012-11-01T12:45:58.730+01:00LINDS! you are the nicest most lovely person on th...LINDS! you are the nicest most lovely person on this planet and this comment absolutely made my day. Thank you. It's hard to step outside of myself (and the blog) and really see it for what it is - an archive our our journey and my journey into photography and writing. Your recognition of that journey makes me feel warm and cozy inside. THANK YOU. And yes, let's start a cooking school, wouldn't that be fun?!Talleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02526439207082547500noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5413615485793018819.post-6640349801341344232012-11-01T12:44:05.600+01:002012-11-01T12:44:05.600+01:00thank you for commenting! It is always so nice to ...thank you for commenting! It is always so nice to know that there are people out there reading. You're right in saying that our struggles make us stronger. I try to remind myself of that everyday. That in the end, if nothing else, this experience has made me a better, more empathetic, person. I'm so glad to hear that my journey has been a learning experience for my readers as well - thank you!Talleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02526439207082547500noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5413615485793018819.post-66904490179016566062012-11-01T12:40:59.454+01:002012-11-01T12:40:59.454+01:00KERRY! maybe in addition to mindful mentors you ca...KERRY! maybe in addition to mindful mentors you can become just a mentor? You have an amazing ability to rise above and lead people through the muck. You see it all so clearly. I'm a lucky girl. thank you. Talleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02526439207082547500noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5413615485793018819.post-22697561051509461132012-11-01T12:39:47.390+01:002012-11-01T12:39:47.390+01:00I'm so glad you stumbled upon my blog! And of ...I'm so glad you stumbled upon my blog! And of course, let me know if you'd like to meet up for coffee one day - I always love meeting new faces. Talleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02526439207082547500noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5413615485793018819.post-77589489541455767512012-11-01T12:39:03.878+01:002012-11-01T12:39:03.878+01:00such a reassuring statement - thank you susanne! such a reassuring statement - thank you susanne! Talleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02526439207082547500noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5413615485793018819.post-18670321062854349892012-10-31T01:32:27.287+01:002012-10-31T01:32:27.287+01:00This is such a wonderful post, Talley. I loved rea...This is such a wonderful post, Talley. I loved reading every single bit of it. This may be very selfish of me, but I especially loved reading about the part about settling into yourself and your path and plan. Since I'm in my last year of college the big question hovering over everyone is "what are you going to do after you graduate?" I don't know how to say I have no real career ambitions, I don't want to pursue graduate school (at least yet), and I'm not sure at all what I want to do. It seems that it never gets easier, even as you get older, in trying to shape your life the way you want it-- something always end up jumbling all the pieces and you're right back where you started. I guess there's a sort of comfort in that, that we're all just figuring it out, and it's always an effort to (at least at certain points in our lives). I'd love to hear more when you do get the chance to fix your thought and words around it. And you are a lovely writer, by the way. Whether those words come easy or not, everyone seems to love reading them. <br /><br />And I'm so happy you posted about roast chicken. Your pricey chicken shows its worth-- it's beautiful! Especially with those roasted vegetables nestled around it. I'm envious that you present this to Zach at least once a week! I dream about being so chic. This post, along with that new one by rachel eats about roast chicken, are all I think I need to start, though. I love the simplicity of it. It seems that that's how a roast chicken should be.Amyhttp://themoveablefeasts.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5413615485793018819.post-9976228632864240002012-10-30T16:38:16.782+01:002012-10-30T16:38:16.782+01:00Talley, I love this post. Life doesn't always...Talley, I love this post. Life doesn't always lead you where you think it will, does it? But... look at where it has taken you! Swiss adventures! Amazing travel! Jaunts to Paris! A gorgeous, inviting blog! Incredible photography! You'll get back to architecture when the time is right - and maybe you won't but you'll be doing something else incredible. <br /><br />I picked up the keeping-my-fork-in-my-left-hand thing in London! So much more practical and definitely European. And I remember being so scared roasting my first chicken but it is such a satisfying meal. <br /><br />Oh - and the kissing thing caused me so much social anxiety in Europe! I just could not adopt it and I did not now how to react....Darcyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04266981390052850072noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5413615485793018819.post-38619448669706363962012-10-30T06:46:11.366+01:002012-10-30T06:46:11.366+01:00It's so interesting to read your words on Swis...It's so interesting to read your words on Swiss-isms, and makes me consider all the Irish mannerisms I've picked up from the husband. For example, If you offer him something (cuppa tea, piece of cake, etc.) you must ask him three times. He will say no the first two, but he is waiting for the third time when he will accept. :) I would also say, don't be too hard on yourself. I spent my 20's going through the same sorts of struggles, beating myself up for not fitting into the picture of success I was raised on. You'll figure out what you want. la domestiquehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00134725189714943671noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5413615485793018819.post-75263313302176305892012-10-30T03:41:44.392+01:002012-10-30T03:41:44.392+01:00Talley, I really loved this post. You're a won...Talley, I really loved this post. You're a wonderful writer, even if you find it hard to get those words right.<br /><br />I imagine that it must be difficult, trying to find your place in Zurich when it wasn't exactly the life you'd had planned out. Still, you seem to have flourished, and I'm sure you'll find what you're meant to do, even if it takes some time. <br /><br />P.S. I don't do much eating that requires a fork and knife, but I'm pretty sure that when I do, I keep my fork in my left hand. Was I just a little clueless as a kid, failing to pick up exactly on forks-and-knives as done in North America?Katiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02728857878966566813noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5413615485793018819.post-5456560931384702442012-10-30T02:40:17.881+01:002012-10-30T02:40:17.881+01:00In the US I usually do one kiss when I meet Poles ...In the US I usually do one kiss when I meet Poles my age (thirty something) but with older generation it is often the traditional three.<br />When I visit Poland it depends on a person but the custom is still very much alive over there :-).Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5413615485793018819.post-88415504409880073692012-10-29T21:29:18.846+01:002012-10-29T21:29:18.846+01:00I'm sitting here, awaiting Sandy, pouring thro...I'm sitting here, awaiting Sandy, pouring through the blog posts I'd missed over the last few months... It is the most incredible site - the photos, the descriptive stories, the food you create so effortlessly. It is awe-inspiring! You have always been so good with words and this recent post reminded me how talented you are on so many levels. You've taken a new, unknown city by storm and those challenges and experiences you have faced will make you so much stronger and fuller. I am jealous on so many levels. Miss and love you and am so proud of you! P.S. When you come back to the states, can I enroll in your cooking school?? Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12136350026101926447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5413615485793018819.post-28971058967778691862012-10-29T18:32:09.382+01:002012-10-29T18:32:09.382+01:00Hi Talley,
Long-time reader here, but first time ...Hi Talley, <br />Long-time reader here, but first time commenting, I think! I just wanted to let you know that I love your blog and photography, and enjoy reading all the time! Living in a foreign country and not having a plan nailed down can (obviously) be frustrating, but I learn so much from reading about your struggles with these things. These experiences may make you a different person, but a better one, I'm sure. Thank you for the blog; I look forward to reading on!<br /><br />www.sixkickswitch.blogspot.com Addyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08799930290084667123noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5413615485793018819.post-60538406197391227902012-10-29T14:55:07.427+01:002012-10-29T14:55:07.427+01:00Amidst your ruminations, you've become a cook,...Amidst your ruminations, you've become a cook, a photographer, and a writer. But while you're resting in the questions, run out and buy "Tiny Beautiful Things, Advice from Dear Sugar" by Cheryl Strayed. She talks about leaning into creating, as opposed to leaning into worry, which is something that you've done unconsciously. You've become an amazing, beautiful, make people feel warm and fuzzy (and FULL) creator. Read this entry as the Hurricane is moving in to hit New Jersey, and it made me happy! Kerry Dochertyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03883794160530334739noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5413615485793018819.post-34505856410813875372012-10-29T12:41:30.844+01:002012-10-29T12:41:30.844+01:00Having only been in Zurich for one month, it is lo...Having only been in Zurich for one month, it is lovely to come across such a gorgeous blog.<br />I'll definitely be following you with a keen eye :-)<br />Tanyastrikk handknitshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09627239573333741355noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5413615485793018819.post-90081307034984129422012-10-29T08:04:13.840+01:002012-10-29T08:04:13.840+01:003 kisses for the Polish too! interesting. Do you k...3 kisses for the Polish too! interesting. Do you know the history? The USA is 1, the French are 2 and the Swiss/Polish are 3. I wonder what other countries do 3. Do you still do 3 kisses when you meet fellow Poles in the US, or have you all adapted to the one & hug routine? And yes, fork in the left hand means they are either European or former expats! talleyhttp://www.housetohaus.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5413615485793018819.post-66308926324147798722012-10-29T06:15:53.950+01:002012-10-29T06:15:53.950+01:00we are all at the same point :-)..grüße susannewe are all at the same point :-)..grüße susannemilas-delihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11269319079516348866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5413615485793018819.post-51215166396237816482012-10-29T01:08:11.097+01:002012-10-29T01:08:11.097+01:00The three times kiss is not Swiss-ism, I'm ori...The three times kiss is not Swiss-ism, I'm originally from Poland (have been living in the US for 14 years) and we do that too :-). And the fork and knife thing :-). I always say that if you see someone in the US eating and using their knife and fork then they must be from Europe ;-).<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com